19. January 2011 by Kelly.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” Jim Rohn 

Have you ever noticed how so many people work so hard at telling others how to do things better; make things better; provide a better service or product; and on and on? Have you ever wondered what these people do that makes them worthy of telling us what we can ‘do better’? 

And then there are the ‘helpers’; those that tell us, ‘I am passionate about helping people’ but when you really need help . . . they’re know where to be found. Or maybe your having a conversation and someone that is listening in and not even involved in your conversation and they become “Arnold Horseshack”” OH OH OH I can Help” and you weren’t even asking for help; maybe all you were doing was looking for an eager ear that would ‘LISTEN’ . . . 

Or better yet, do you practice what you preach? How can we expect others to be ‘better’ if we ourselves are not ‘better’? It doesn’t count if only one area of your life is great and everything else in your life is messed up. It does count if one area is great and you are consciously working on all the rest all the time to make everything else better; afterall should our lives not be spent in continually becoming “Better”? 

This morning as I was looking at myself in the mirror, I noticed that approaching 50 and not being as active as I was 15 years ago that I have put on the proverbial ‘gut’, so I took another look and thought, now Kelly, if you take the time and spend the money to eliminate your psoriasis; had hair transplanted to that bald spot on the top of your head; started going to the dentist again; sinus surgery . . .you better start watching what you eat and drink and get that gut back where it belongs, you know, out of site out of mind . . . . A real ‘gut check’ if you will. 

So, in order to pay more attention to what I am eating I packed my lunch, rather than planning ahead on what fast food place I would go to today. This way I must be accountable to myself, rather than blame my ‘gut’ on McCheeseburger; so as I pulled my morning snack out of the bag (I packed an everything bagel, (top only) and an individual cream cheese, what did I find . . . that I had grabbed an individual strawberry cream cheese rather than the plain / traditional kind that I was looking forward to. I can’t stand strawberry cream cheese, but my wife likes it; unfortunately she wasn’t with me to enjoy my bagel.   

As I was heating up my lunch, which smelled every bit as good today as it did last night for dinner, an office mate says ‘smells great, if you need any help with that let me know’ . . . to which I replied, ‘I have a bagel and cream cheese if you like?’ One good turn does not deserve another but I just couldn’t resist . . . 

  “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” Jim Rohn 

The best way to have a great day is by making it so. Be Well and Be Blessed.

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8. January 2011 by Kelly.

Why is it that we spend so much of our time and lives living in fear of something or worrying about things that may never happen or not really matter even if they do happen?

For example, last night as I was channel surfing I stopped on an MSNBC show called ‘The Facebook Effect”, it profiled both the company and some of it millions of users, one of which was worried that FB was sharing her information with the world; so in order to stop FB she deleted her account, which took her 2 and ½ hours. Seriously.

If you know me, you know that my wife and I have twin sons, both have Down syndrome and Autism Spectrum Disorder and in my quest to become a better father, husband and person I have learned that my sons are not only special, but divinely gifted in that if I take what I learn from them and both apply and share it; everyone wins. So the lesson of the day is: Spend more time without fear and worry and live better.

Easier said than done, so I’ll go first and let you know how it works out; here are a few of the things I will stop fearing and worrying about:

1. What does the future hold for my sons?
2. What happens to my sons if they out live my wife and me?
3. Bills, debt, mortgages, etc.
4. Will the Broncos ever win another super bowl?
5. Heights, big hairy spiders and dentists.
6. New Years Resolutions
7. What happened yesterday and what might happen tomorrow.

Just to name a few . . .and ‘how?’ you ask do I intend to stop theses fears and worries . . . I’m going to start by spending more time working on myself, becoming a better father, husband, friend and person because I know one thing:

• I was created in God’s image; what I do in this life is my choice and what I receive will be the result of my choices and that my thoughts manifest themselves; therefore I choose to leave fear and worry in my rear view mirror because my family is counting on me.

If for no other selfish reason than that; the commitment I made when I married my wife and again when we decided to bring children into this world, for these very reasons I owe them my very best, every moment, every day and if I place all my focus on being the best Kelly Krei that I can possibly be, I will have no time left for fear and worry.

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